Cook meat in salted water (about 1 TBS. of salt in the water) for about 2-2 ½ hours until meat is done and shreddable. The water should cover the meat.
Take meat out of the water and let cool.
Bring the leftover water from the meat to a boil and add the steel cut oatmeal. Cook very slowly for about an hour. While that is cooking, grind the meat in a food processor with the onions.
When the oatmeal is fully cooked, mix in the meat mixture and season with salt and pepper to taste. This can be set aside in the fridge for up to 4 days until you are ready to cook it up.
To make grits, form patties with the meat/oatmeal mixture and heat a skillet on medium-high with oil of your choice. I like ghee or coconut oil. Flatten the patty and fry on both sides until crispy.
Serve warm with an egg over easy on top and maybe some hot sauce!!! Yummm.